I am grateful for the ones who walked away and the strength to turn against and walk away. I think most of the time, it is that that relationship no longer works for EITHER person, it’s reached the proverbial fork in the road and neither can go where the other is travelling. Greater is coming, either way.
I believe we tell ourselves things to make ourselves feel better, and this is one of them, which helps after we’ve been rejected; but let’s be realistic here. Sometimes we let go; sometimes we are let go of; and sometimes, it’s a mutual decision. Everyone is reaching for their highest potential– the best self they can be; the most compassionate or loving, the most capable and competent. Or is that only in my imaginary idealistic world? My point is that whatever has happened, it has happened because that relationship was hindering BOTH parties from moving on to better pastures.
We seem to be so unwilling to wear our fates, sometimes. Even by turning against someone, we force them to confront things about themselves they needed to confront, or to reach for things they were previously too proud to reach for that can serve them well. We are in each other’s lives to soothe and stir; everything is one side of a coin.
So I am grateful to have been both and to have had the courage to have done both: bounce back from being turned against and walked away from, and to turn against and walk away. Change is never easy, but it is the status quo.
Picture attribution: This has been making its rounds on Facebook. I cannot trace its origin. Help appreciated.